Ask Amy: Marrying couple seeks serving help
This might be a nice symbolic gesture, where the first “official” act of your life together as a married couple would be to serve those people who have gathered to celebrate your marriage.
I hope you will be able to relax, laugh and genuinely feel joyful during your wedding and reception.
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for a long time. We have two grown children.
I have always thought we were “meant to be.” We have lots of mutual interests; we laugh, we talk when there is a problem, and we don't keep secrets.
A few days ago, I came back quickly from an errand. I went to tell him I was home, and found him looking at porn on his computer.
I was shocked at what he was watching, and extremely hurt. It felt like he was being unfaithful – sexually and mentally.
I asked him why he was looking at it and he said he didn't know.
I said I would talk to him when he knew the answer. He said nothing for three days.
Finally, I talked and was crying and told him how terribly hurt I was. He said he wouldn't do it anymore. I asked how long he had been doing this, and he said for a few years.
I've tried to forgive. I need help to let this go, but I haven't been able to.
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