Dear Amy: Where I work, we have several departments, which share a large, public bathroom.
My issue is this: Often, I walk into the bathroom to see a colleague brushing their teeth in one of these public sinks.
I'm guessing the most common reason is to prepare for a dentist appointment, but regardless of the reason, I find it really disgusting...Read more
Dear Amy: My 17-year-old daughter and I are still trying to recover from a Christmas snub.
In our family, we draw names and have a $50 budget.
My daughter's cousin drew her name and had purchased the item my daughter wanted, but he bought a smaller size than she wears and the gift cost about $30.
She is upset that he didn't spend the ...Read more
Dear Amy: My beloved father-in-law passed away a few months ago. Before he died, he was bedridden for several years. He received a handicap parking permit. During the years of his sickness, Mom proudly displayed it whenever she parked, even though Dad was not with her.
Now that he has died, she still uses it everywhere she goes, even though she...Read more
Dear Amy: I recently returned from a trip. At the airport, the gate agent asked us to start lining up, since the plane had been delayed twice and he didn't want to delay us further. We started to form the lines he indicated by what was on our boarding passes. The line I was in reached about 50 people long and went along the back wall.
We had ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am in my 60s, the oldest of four children. My relationship with my family was distant, but for the last 10 years, I've attended a few family events (we are now all geographically scattered), kept in touch with my two brothers and have made an effort to see my mother, who's getting older and lives alone.
My sister hasn't liked me ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am a 23-year-old woman who has been in a relationship with my boyfriend for four years. We currently live together and plan on getting married and having children.
We are perfect together and I couldn't ask for a better partner.
His mother and I do not get along. From the very beginning of our relationship she has talked constantly...Read more
Dear Amy: My brother and his wife are expecting a third child.
My sister-in-law is pushing to have the baby use her last name because her side of the family doesn't have any males to carry on the name.
This has caused a huge rift in our family. My older parents are heartbroken.
I would like to know, is it an accepted social practice to have ...Read more
Dear Amy: I used to be very good friends with a colleague. We regularly socialized outside of work and I was a frequent guest in her home.
This all changed, however, when (in my supervisory role) I followed work protocol and notified our HR department that she was pregnant.
Even as other colleagues knew she was pregnant, my friend was furious ...Read more
Dear Amy: I am 21 years old and attend college out of state. I am lucky to go to college, except that I can't do anything without parents' approval. They pay for college because they refuse for me to have loans. The problem is that since they pay for my schooling, they hold everything over my head.
If I want to get a piercing, tattoo, etc., I ...Read more
Dear Amy: My wife and I have been married for more than 30 years and have raised three children. My wife is a controller and often treats me as either a child, a student or an employee, not the equal partner I should be.
Push back to my childhood. I was a short, skinny, clumsy kid who was bullied incessantly by my teachers (ahhhh ... the nuns) ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband's brother and his wife just got divorced after 17 years of marriage and 25 years of being together.
They have three children, who are close cousins to my three children. All the children are under the age of 15. My children love their aunt and uncle, and consider her still their aunt, even though she is no longer married to...Read more
Dear Amy: Due to a job layoff last year, our 32-year-old daughter has been living with my husband and me. She recently returned to work, but receives a low salary and no health insurance.
She has a gluten intolerance, which requires meals without wheat and other additives. She refuses to eat the difficult to find and expensive gluten-free meals...Read more
Dear Amy: My daughter, who is 40, and her daughter, age 10, have been living with me for the past couple of years.
My daughter has a very good and demanding job, so I do all the cooking, shopping and housework, work at my granddaughter's school, etc. My daughter has ADHD and is very disorganized.
She has always had terrible taste in men. ...Read more
Dear Amy: I have spent many years struggling with my older daughter's attitude toward me (and many others). I have cried, sobbed and ranted (to myself), but I can't figure out what to do.
She is in her mid-30s, and spent her childhood going back and forth between her father and myself. Amicably. We all got along.
I am bipolar, and so is she. ...Read more
Dear Amy: My nephew and his wife recently had their first baby. We live in the same city, and are close. The day the baby was born, doctors thought she might be seriously ill. Tests revealed that she was fine.
The new parents only allowed grandparents to go meet her in the hospital.
My nephew texted me a few weeks later to tell me that I was ...Read more
Dear Amy: I live with my girlfriend and her daughter. I consider myself happy and do love her, but I have remained friends with my ex-girlfriend. We split about four years ago. I care about her and think of her often, although I don't intend to get back together. We consider each other good friends. There is nothing romantic or sexual.
Here's ...Read more
Dear Amy: My husband and I have been married for six years. He is a Christian, and is active in his church. I am an atheist. While he tries to convert me on occasion, we have no problems with our religious differences. In fact, the conversations we have are some of the highlights of our marriage.
My husband is not a tidy man. He rarely does any...Read more
Dear Amy: My middle-school daughter recently came out to our family; we are all very supportive of her. She has a girlfriend the same age, and the girlfriend's family does not know of their daughter's sexuality.
The girls want to have a sleepover to celebrate a birthday, and I am inclined to say no to this.
I wouldn't let any of my other ...Read more
Dear Amy: My family refuses to forgive my boyfriend for hitting me seven years ago. After this incident we went our separate ways, but after a lot of work we slowly came back together.
My boyfriend and I have now been together for the last three years. He worked very hard to make changes and prove himself to me, but my family refuses to budge. ...Read more
Dear Amy: When my husband and I married about 10 years ago, we were both ambivalent about having children.
My husband is a kind, generous man. I've gradually come around to wanting kids. I'm 40 now, so it's approaching "now or never" time for me.
My husband says he's willing to have babies, if that's what I really want. But here's the kicker; ...Read more