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Keep It Off My Wave

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My wife and I met this new couple at a function, and they seemed really nice, so we exchanged information in hopes of meeting up again. We like meeting new couples and thought we'd see whether we have more in common. We have hung out with them a handful of times now but don't see any connection or really have much in common. They ...Read more

My partner and I have a baby boy and live together. We are nearly 40

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My partner and I have a baby boy and live together. We are nearly 40. We sold our homes during the housing crash of '08 and got burned. After our son was born, we bought a home together. We've become extremely frugal in order to save more for our retirements and the baby's college tuition.

We are diligently saving and cut corners. We ...Read more

Counseling Can't Save Marriage Lacking Intimacy

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for almost three years to a woman who refuses to share the same bed with me. It started on our honeymoon when, after having sex, she chose to sleep in a different bed whenever there were two beds in the room.

She's in her late 40s and had never been married before. We have been intimate only twice in the last year...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/26/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I work in an office of about 100. About six months ago, two co-workers (male and female) began arriving at work early, together, walking each other to their offices and hanging out. Both of them are married to others.

At first, their actions weren't noticeable, but now, more and more people are talking about the obviously close "...Read more

Snubbed Over Perceived Obligation

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.


I've always had a good relationship with my husband's sister, but a few months ago when she came for a visit, she abruptly left when she found out my daughter and I had flown across the country over the summer to see my brother and didn't visit her adult daughter who lives nearby.

My daughter...Read more

Young Office Slacker

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I run a small real estate development firm with only three employees. I research and bring in the deals. My partner manages the day-to-day operations, and we have one general administrative assistant. At the same time, we work with and have relationships with everyone involved, including general contractors, architects, designers, ...Read more

Girlfriend proposes proposal from commitment-phobe

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My guy is 28. I am 30. We started dating four years ago. He has commitment issues. He refused to refer to me as his girlfriend for two years. I finally got him to call me his girlfriend after I broke down after his graduation ceremony, where he kept referring to me as his "friend." After that, we finally were an "official" couple and ...Read more

Wife Foresees A Rocky Road With Husband Suffering Dementia

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: After two failed marriages, I married a wonderful man whom I love but am not in love with. He recently had a seizure, after which he was diagnosed with moderate dementia.

All I see is a long, dark road ahead. We are both senior citizens with not a long time left on this Earth. My health is suffering because of this situation. I am ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/25/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I'm a 35-year-old mother of five. In January, I was rushed to the hospital because I thought I was having a heart attack. It turned out to be a pulmonary embolism (a blood clot in the lungs). After leaving the hospital, I did everything the doctor told me. I quit smoking cold turkey after 20 years, and I changed my diet.

...Read more

Concerned About Prenup

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

My mom is getting remarried soon (she's divorced from my dad, future stepdad is a widower). We all really like Stepdad and are happy for them.

My brother recently asked Mom offhandedly if they were doing a prenup, and she surprised him by saying they were and that it would keep their ...Read more

Self-Conscious at the Gym

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am fit. Correction: I am super fit. Not an easy feat for a 52-year-old mother of four. I work out every day. I eat as healthy as possible.

I am obsessed with this indoor cycling place near me. It plays loud music. The instructors are gorgeous. It's so different from the last gym I belonged to. It was depressing. There were lots of...Read more

Parents won't forgive drunken rant

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I was with a man I loved very much for almost four years. He is now in recovery, but before he turned his life around, he had multiple issues with my family. While on a drinking binge, he had a verbal argument with my father, which he has tried to apologize for many times.

This was three years ago, and my family refuses to even speak ...Read more

Postal Workers Meet Challenge Of Delivering Kids' Postcards

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: While our daughter was on vacation with our small grandkids, she bought them postcards and suggested they write us about their vacation.

She said she laughed when the kids finished with the cards because she hadn't realized they didn't know how to write a postcard. The children had turned the cards sideways and had written across the...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/24/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am a 20-year-old, single female. I have been friends with "Tony" for two years. Tony is 25, married and has two children.

About a year ago, I started having feelings for Tony. He and his wife were separated at the time. (She'd had an affair.) Then he and his wife got back together. Two weeks ago, Tony told me he has feelings for...Read more

Separated and Moving On

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I've been separated from my wife of 19 years and three kids for a few months. The separation stemmed from my infidelity -- a mistake I made to run from my marital problems instead of to communicate, try to work through them, and take a stand for my happiness. It was cowardly and I regret it deeply.

We are in couple's ...Read more

Co-worker's Annoying Habits

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I graduated college earlier this year, and after six months on the job hunt, I am finally employed full time at a large nonprofit as one of the receptionists.

The problem is that I share the front desk with another woman and she is getting on my nerves. She's been working at this job for almost three years, and I don't see her going...Read more

Relationship falters through mutual bad behavior

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: My girlfriend and I had a falling out last month. She told me that she didn't like the fact that I didn't seem appreciative of her and that I wasn't being a "man."

I was between jobs, and it was hard to find something that fit me, so money was a problem and I couldn't provide. This made me a tad depressed because I was not fulfilling ...Read more

Dad's Rough Horseplay Looks A Lot Like Abuse

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I am a grandmother and great-grandmother who is concerned about the behavior of my grandson toward his 7-year-old daughter, Beth, and her 9-year-old cousin, Mandy. When Mandy recently visited me, she told me her uncle crept up behind her, put his hand over her mouth and then held her nose so she couldn't breathe. She said he has done ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 7/23/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: I am one of three adult children in our family. We had another brother, but he died several years ago, leaving a wife and child.

When our mom passed away recently, she left me as the administrator of her trust. Mom had the idea that since one of her four children was gone, her inheritance should be split between her three living ...Read more

Invisible Disabilities

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

READERS: Carolyn Hax is away. The following is from Jan. 11, 2010, and adapted from an online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

When I'm in an elevator and someone takes it to go up one floor, there's the occasional rude stare or snide comment. This really bothers me because I have friends with "invisible" disabilities that limit their use of the ...Read more