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You're Worth More Than Your Estate

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I am 90 years old and, considering my age, in fairly good health. My wife of 60 years died seven years ago. Almost all of my wartime buddies are gone, as well as my high-school friends. I live in relative comfort in a retirement home. My two grown children live far away, but thanks to the internet, we keep in touch almost weekly. ...Read more

Worker would rather get cash than cashmere

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I'm a faithful reader of your column.

I am a housekeeper for the best family in the world. I know they love me and we share mutual respect.

I am paid $400/week. I'm not starving, for sure. But the problem is that on holidays and my birthday, the gifts are mostly clothes from stores I will never go to.

I cannot afford ...Read more

Lost Dream Of Grandparenthood Leaves Hole In Woman's Heart

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I have two wonderful children (28 and 30). Both are married and have great spouses.

Ever since I was a girl, I have dreamed of being a mother and a grandmother. My heartbreak is that neither of my children wants kids. Every time I hear that my sister or brother is becoming a grandparent again, my heart aches so bad I sit down and cry...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/23/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My first wife died at the age of 36, and I remarried two years later. The day my son, "Andy," turned 18, he moved out of our home and in with my 70-year-old widowed mother. He also talked Mom into giving him $30,000, for which she took out a loan. Now the money is long gone, and Mom has been stuck making the loan payments.

I know ...Read more

No Thought For the Implications

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Carolyn Hax is on leave. This column originally ran on June 16, 2013.


I have a bizarre dilemma that needs a light touch in handling. My wife, my children and I are very close to my grandparents, who live within an easy drive. We still see them often, and never miss birthdays, holidays, etc. My grandparents are generous with ...Read more

A Relationship That's a Marriage Sandwich

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I have been together for over 10 years. However, briefly we separated. During that time, we still talked every day, talked about our future together and how we still loved each other. We just needed to take some time apart for each of us to evaluate life and decide where we were going. One day, after a few months, ...Read more

Second marriage leads back to first husband

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I have been married to my second husband for five years.

I hold a great deal of animosity toward him, because in the beginning of our relationship, he let his teenage children disrespect me.

I became a person I did not recognize nor like. I felt like it was always three against 1one and I had to stand up for myself, sometimes being a...Read more

Teen Sees Parents' Marriage Collapse From Front-Row Seat

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I'm 17 and the youngest in the family. My dad is cheating on my mom. My mom knows and has even told him she knows he's having an affair. He didn't apologize. His response was that he would still meet the other lady.

For the past few months, Mom has been gathering evidence so she can divorce him. None of my other siblings know. I feel...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/22/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My 5-year-old daughter, "Susie," is frightened of her grandfather, my father. We see him only two or three times a year because he lives over a thousand miles away, but I have been diligent about letting Susie visit.

My father is not and never has been a "kid" person -- you know, someone who gets down on the floor and plays. Susie...Read more

Mother's Made Up Stories

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My mother makes up stories. I don't know how else to say it. Usually they're false recollections of history that serve to make her look good. For example, for years she's been recounting to people the story of how my stepdad, on a family vacation, took me to my favorite museum and got ...Read more

Affairs Revealed

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: My wife and I were married for 61 years. We had three sons. "Mary" passed away this year from complications of Parkinson's and dementia.

Mary and her friend "John" had a relationship most of our married life. She had gone to school with John and renewed their "friendship" soon after we were married in the 1950s. I only discovered ...Read more

Dad is horror-filled by son's horror films

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: I am a divorced man who shares custody of a 13-year-old boy with my ex-wife.

Last weekend I became aware that my son's mother had given permission for him to watch "The Exorcist."

If you are not familiar with this horror film, some of the worst scenes are available online. They are very disturbing and I cannot imagine anyone allowing...Read more

Family Never Learns To Let Up On Criticism Of Career Choice

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I grew up the third of four children. Both my older brothers chose to go into engineering (the field my father is in). I rocked the boat and opted to go into education. All during college and after, my parents continued to tell me I had chosen the wrong career and would never have any money.

Ten years later, I'm still getting ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/21/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My daughter and her husband are about to have their first baby. Unfortunately, my daughter is having problems with her mother-in-law, "Myrna," and comes crying to me. I think my adult kids need to handle their own problems, but I want to be able to give advice when asked.

I offered to talk to Myrna, but my daughter says it will ...Read more

Grown-up or Sad Child

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My mom spent a decade telling me that if various family members found out I'm gay, it would make them depressed/have heart attacks/die. Finally, I said enough, I'm telling my dad. Classic mom reaction: She gasped, put her hands over her eyes, winced, and then insisted she wasn't trying to tell me what to do.

One result of so ...Read more

Keep It Down Down There!

Life Advice / Dear Annie /

Dear Annie: I live in a large city with high real estate prices. This has prevented me from buying my own home, so I reside in an apartment. I have done so for the majority of my adult life. All of my previous experiences have been pleasant. However, the most recent apartment complex I moved to has very thin walls, and as a result, I can hear ...Read more

Parents with troubled son worry about disclosure

Life Advice / Ask Amy /

Dear Amy: We had a very difficult summer. We had to send our 14-year-old son out of state to a wilderness program because of his substance abuse, defiance and high-risk behavior. We were totally caught off guard by the substance abuse issue. We are first-generation immigrants and were not exposed to drugs growing up in our birth country.

Our ...Read more

Woman's Disappearing Act Ends Four-Year Relationship

Life Advice / Dear Abby /

DEAR ABBY: I was ghosted by a woman I had been in a long-distance relationship with. It lasted four years until one day she just never responded again.

We are both parents, both 30, so it's hard for me to understand how someone could do this to a person you've had a history with and claim to love. It seems like a child's reaction. I'm finding ...Read more

Annie's Mailbox for 10/20/2016

Life Advice / Annie's Mailbox /

Dear Annie: My girlfriend and I are both 34 and have been dating for three years. "Sheri" does not work and rarely gets up before one in the afternoon. She lives in a house that her family owns and receives child support from her ex-husband. She also has me to pay her bills. I am totally devoted to Sheri and love her son as my own.

The ...Read more

$$ Identity

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi Carolyn:

I've fallen suddenly into pretty massive debt (a whirlwind of medical problems coupled with sudden deaths in the family requiring unpaid leave and expensive flights). I have to completely change how I spend money because I want to get rid of all this debt within the next two years -- I'll...Read more


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