Ask Amy: Future family visit fuels some fears
Dear Amy: I have a lot of hesitation about a visit by my brother and sister-in-law this summer.
They live out of state and last visited us two years ago. That visit did not go well.
My brother made a lot of negative comments about my family and our lifestyles, including how we live and where we live.
During our communication through phone calls over the years, I never really realized the negative downside of him.
I have visited him several times during the last 10 to 15 years at his home (to welcome babies) and those visits went fairly well.
During his visit with us, his attitude, comments and conversations reminded me of our father from years ago – and that is not a good thing.
He has offered to stay at a hotel, but do you have thoughts or suggestions on how I can have him stay at our home and have it maybe go better than the last visit?
We have a very small family. We want to have a good and positive relationship, but I’m not sure if that will work out.
Your advice?
– Worried Sibling
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