Faux 'bridesmaids' can't afford the honor
Not quite the charming scene we had in mind.
Your mother might want to confer some serious objections to you. If your partner had been reluctant until recently, she could caution you that reluctance before marriage can translate into something else later. Or she might just want to ask you if this is what you want.
Have this conversation with your mother. It's true -- she fouled up this moment, but if you two want to get married, her reaction shouldn't change the outcome.
Dear Amy: "Disturbed Daughter" wanted to confront her father over snapping at her mother, but you told her to handle it privately. I disagree. I think she should call him out when he is doing it.
-- Disappointed
Dear Disappointed: Because of the dynamic she described, I thought it wisest to start with a private chat, but if that doesn't inspire him to alter his behavior, then she should definitely call him out.
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