Parents fret over daughter's relationship
I was not aggressive, just frustrated and loud.
She fell out of love so quickly. She said she was now completely "indifferent" toward me.
I know she has issues with trust and intimacy, but I still feel like she sabotaged and threw our relationship away. I'm depressed.
-- Heartbroken
Dear Heartbroken: Your former girlfriend drew a line in the sand, choosing not to be with someone who refers to her as being "bitchy" and who uses foul language with her. I'd say she is on a path toward trying to heal her previous hurts, and this is probably a good start for her.
You seem to be comparing yourself favorably to others who treated her worse. That is too low a standard. Unfortunately for you, there is no antidote to indifference.
Dear Amy: "Conflicted" was adopted and wondered about contacting half-siblings.
I was also adopted. Once I became aware of my bio-relatives, I very respectfully reached out to two half-siblings. One welcomed this, and the other didn't. I am aware of the impact on them, but I'm also glad I did it.
-- Adopted
Dear Adopted: Thank you for offering your perspective.
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