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Dear Amy: In July my grandson married his girlfriend of four years (she is the mother of my great-grandson, who is two).
My wife (his step-grandmother) and myself were not invited to the wedding. We have no idea why we were excluded, as we thought we had a great relationship with them.
Even his mother was confused over this and told my wife that she would see to it that we got an invitation, but that didn't happen. We have not spoken to, heard from or seen them since the wedding and are very confused as to why.
My heart is breaking, as I would love to have a relationship with them, but especially my great-grandson, "Sammy."
Any advice you could give me would be greatly appreciated.
-- Heartbroken Great-grandfather
Dear Heartbroken: I'm very sorry this has happened, and I assume you would respect an explanation for this exclusion -- but having no explanation at all puts you in a tough spot.
You should contact your grandson and his wife by mail. Tell them, "We are hurt that we weren't invited to your wedding, but we are very happy for you and assume you had your own reasons for leaving us off the list. All the same, we wanted to congratulate you both; we hope to see you and 'Sammy' very soon."
Send along a colorful board book or wooden toy for your great-grandson, and leave the door open for a reply.
Dear Amy: Thank you for advising your recent writer ("Stuck at 17"), and all your other readers, that it is never too late for a survivor of sexual assault to come forward.
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