Protective brother wakes up to terrible surprise
Dear Traumatized: You have every right to feel disrespected, and you were -- extremely. Among other indignities, you were basically forced to spend much of the night on the street.
However, you should examine your feelings of betrayal. Is it because your sister couldn't see through your friend's reputation and hooked up with him? Or is it because she does know and doesn't care?
Do you feel betrayed because your friend can be a player with other people's sisters, but not yours?
These two are consenting adults. They should have the right to engage sexually with one another without you feeling involved -- or betrayed.
Their choice to have sex in front of you? I agree that this is extreme, traumatic and very disrespectful. Your sister has apologized. Now you must confront your friend.
You will also have to rewire your ideals concerning your sister. This could ultimately be liberating for both of you.
Dear Amy: "Keeping My Name" thought it was sexist to be referred to as "Mrs. (husbands last name)" when she had kept her given name after marriage. I can understand that.
Although I did not keep my given name after marriage, I am offended when a sister-in-law addresses mail to us as "The (husband's full name) Family."
While this may have been customary 100 years ago, now it just sounds patriarchal.
It sounds to me like the addressees are husband and children, with the omission being fully intended.
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