Girlfriend proposes proposal from commitment-phobe
-- Ringless in the USA
Dear Ringless: Your boyfriend's commitment issues seem to have awakened in you a need to control him, even to the extent of scheduling when he should propose to you. Look how hard you are working! You had to have a meltdown before he would even describe you as his girlfriend. Multiply that meltdown by 100, and that's how hard you will have to work to manipulate him into a marriage (and then keep him in it).
If you want a marriage proposal, perhaps you should be brave enough to pop the question yourself, right now, rather than try to force him into doing it.
If you proposed to him, his likely response would be: "Ummmm, can I get back to you on that?"
This response would tell you everything that you need to know.
Your guy is not ready or willing to make a marriage plan with you. If he wanted to marry you, he would cave to your pressure. If he really wanted to marry you, you two would be engaged/hitched by now.
He is telling you he doesn't want to be married to you, but he doesn't seem to want to break up with you, either.
Use this separation period to explore your options.
Dear Amy: I have a couple of childhood friends who will make statements and observations that are extremely racist. They will often use racial slurs and act particularly rude to people of those races.
I put up with it until they told me that they hated my current boyfriend because he's Korean.
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