Girlfriend proposes proposal from commitment-phobe
I'm fed up with their actions, but I've known them for so long. What should I do?
-- Unsure
Dear Unsure: You put up with these racist people when their statements were geared toward others, but now that it's personal, you seem awakened to the impact of their words.
First you should tell these friends that their racism is unacceptable, and then you should find other friends.
Dear Amy: "Hospitable to a Point" wrote about a friend she hosts for dinner once a week, but the friend never contributes or reciprocates.
I liked your idea to give the friend a specific job to do during these meals. Resentment builds up when people feel like things are out of balance.
-- Been There
Dear Been There: Also -- simply hosting this person less frequently would probably help.
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