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Ex-etiquette: Grief is tough
Q.My husband recently died. We were married for almost 50 years. He was married prior to our life together and he always told me they divorced because she did not want children. We went on to have three wonderful daughters. His passing was expected, but a terrible blow. I recently received a letter from the funeral home saying that his ex-wife ...Read more
Lori Borgman: Screen tests aren't just for movie stars
I had an identity crisis yesterday. It was the fourth one this week. Online accounts keep questioning if it's really me.
I have the same thought a lot of mornings when I look in the mirror.
The bank insisted I confirm my identity before I could access our account -- all because I made one teeny tiny typo entering the passcode. Flustered and in...Read more
Memoir seeks to destigmatize and explore nuance of mental illness
It’s a hard subject to talk about, especially for someone suffering from it. “Many of us have been labeled or even seen ourselves as freaks, weirdos, oddballs, eccentrics and outcasts. So it’s no surprise that many of us attempt to keep our illness hidden to the extent we can.”
That’s what makes Victoria Maiden’s intimate, heartfelt...Read more
Epic space adventure told through neurodivergent lens
Set in an epic voyage through outer space, "Space City" by William Spencer effortlessly weaves together science fiction, action, suspense, drama and romance.
It’s the 22nd century, and everyone knew Earth was about to be destroyed — just not so soon. With a meteor within days of destroying Earth, 27-year-old Spencer Collins is forced to ...Read more
Do kids need their cholesterol checked? What parents and pediatricians should know.
Cholesterol tests are well-established as an important part of a routine health screening – for adults. For young people, it's another story.
Relatively few children and teenagers are screened for cholesterol issues. Several factors, including differences in medical experts' recommendations, might confuse parents and even their primary care ...Read more
Editorial: How we build our neighborhoods shapes our communities -- and kids' mental health
A September study in the Journal of the American Medical Association illustrates just how interconnected mental health and community truly are. By cross-referencing survey results about emotional well-being from over 2,000 Allegheny County teenagers with the locations of their homes, the study proved that living near community assets like ...Read more
Tips For Shopping With Young Children During The Holidays
Q: I'm a busy mom with young children. I have to take them with me when I go shopping -- but this time of year especially, sometimes they drive me crazy in the stores! Help!
Jim: Shopping with children, particularly during the busy Christmas season, can be either a fun time together or a frustrating experience -- sometimes both in the same ...Read more
Thank Outside the Box
Things to be thankful for AFTER Thanksgiving? There are a heap! Be glad that:
1. You were not crushed while attempting to buy a 98-inch smart TV. (If you WERE crushed, please skip to item 15.) (And ... sorry.)
2. You presumably understand how to USE your smart TV (even though it is smarter than you by several magnitudes). Knowing how to get ...Read more
Family guide to new movie releases
'MOANA 2'
Rated PG for action/peril.
What it’s about: A sequel to the beloved 2016 animated film sees Moana as a more experienced wayfinder, putting together a crew for a voyage across the ocean to find and connect with more people.
The kid attractor factor: The gorgeous animation, songs and inspiring story.
Good lessons/bad lessons: Do ...Read more
Ex-etiquette: Birthday snub?
Q. My husband’s 8-year-old daughter has a birthday this weekend and she decided she would like to take a few friends to the movies and then out for frozen yogurt around the corner from our home. My husband and his ex-wife plan to take her and I was not invited. What’s good ex-etiquette?
A. Let’s clarify something first. Your husband’s ...Read more
Lori Borgman: Take a number to use the landline
Three of our elementary-school grands have a new landline phone sitting in their family room. They called us multiple times the first week it was installed, each time saying, "Hello, Watson?"
No, they didn't. Each time a soft voice cautiously said, "Hello, Grandma?"
The poor things were apprehensive. A handset that rests in a base alongside a ...Read more
Filling in the blanks on adoptees' medical history
For many people, filling out paperwork about their family's health history is a routine part of a medical visit. For adopted people like Ramya Gruneisen, it's impossible.
"We don't have any information about my biological mom or dad, so there's quite literally nothing to go off of," said Gruneisen, who was born in India and adopted by a couple ...Read more
Shedding light on the unique trauma of a Holocaust survivor’s child
There’s a school of thought that argues how important it is for the remaining Holocaust survivors to discuss their experiences while they still can, so that subsequent generations can learn from the past. Studies have supported this line of thinking.
Estimates tag the remaining number of Jewish Holocaust survivors at about 245,000. But try to...Read more
2 souls pursue justice while navigating their own paths to healing
Set between 1964 and 1972 in Meridien, Virginia, "The Little Bird" is a true-life-based psychological novel by the historical fiction author of "The Crossing," Ashby Jones. In "The Little Bird," the murder of a black teenage boy by a white cop unites two kindred spirits who are individually grappling with grief and guilt.
In 1964, Shane ...Read more
Let Kids Learn The Consequences Of Their Mistakes
Q: I'm sure we're like most parents -- we want our children to learn well and develop good character. We also want to protect them from ever getting hurt. There's so much pain in the world; I believe it's important to shield our kids as much as possible. But how can we accomplish that?
Jim: My answer might surprise you. I actually think the ...Read more
When Animals Go Crackers
Ever wonder what they're saying in a box of animal crackers? Probably not. But I happened to listen in:
"We'd never be packed this way if we were Oreos."
"Your hoof is on my head."
"To you, it's a crumb -- to me, it's my snout!"
"You try thinking out of the box."
"Ever done it with a three-legged giraffe?"
"It's like I'm dissolving...Read more
Family guide to new movie releases
'WICKED'
Rated PG for some scary action, thematic material and brief suggestive material.
What it’s about: The movie musical adaptation of the blockbuster stage production that imagines the origins of the Wicked Witch of the West from "The Wizard of Oz."
The kid attractor factor: The fantastical magical setting, songs and stars.
Good ...Read more
Lori Borgman: Count your blessings, not your calories
‘Tis the season to be thankful, which is why I am hanging tight to the fourth Thursday in November. I may be hanging on by the greasy tip of a wishbone swinging dangerously low over scalding hot gravy, but I refuse to let go of Thanksgiving, the only holiday that has not been grossly commercialized.
For starters, I am thankful there is no ...Read more
Ex-etiquette: When his tattoo gets to you
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 6 months. We do not live together but see each other or talk almost every day. His ex died three years ago. They had a daughter, who is 6, who lives with my boyfriend. The problem is my boyfriend has a very large tattoo of both his ex and his daughter’s names on his chest right above his heart. This makes...Read more
She got seizures at 17 months old. So her dad wrote a musical about epilepsy and empathy
LOS ANGELES -- In March 1998, Ben Decter drove from Los Angeles to Tijuana to get medicine for his 17-month-old daughter, Addie. She had "catastrophic childhood epilepsy," the neurologist had told him, and a drug not yet available in the U.S. was their best bet to treat her nonstop seizures.
That terrifying moment is currently revisited five ...Read more
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