Aunt's nose is out of joint over new baby
The way to respond to your nephew when you finally meet the child is to make a fuss over the baby, telling the young father how perfect and wonderful she is. Apologize for not meeting the baby sooner. Tell him you were upset your children were prevented from meeting their cousin and ask him to forgive you for your pettiness.
Dear Amy: I recently celebrated my marriage with an amazing wedding! We had the best night of our lives, and so many guests told us it was the best wedding they had ever been to.
While enjoying reading cards and opening gifts, we were shocked to find 35 of our 140 guests did not leave a gift. We have racked our brains. Was the gift table too hard to find? Are they planning on sending a gift? Were some gifts stolen?
The probability of this is low as the area was secure and well-supervised. The table was a little tricky to spot, but the venue wasn't that large.
We are honestly feeling hurt. As an aside, my husband and I paid for the wedding ourselves and many of our friends knew this.
Several people have suggested discussing this directly with the offending guests. This is a really tricky situation, but that number is so surprisingly high.
Any advice on how to approach this sticky situation ?
-- Baffled Bride
Dear Baffled: Many people don't bring gifts to a wedding. If they are traveling to the ceremony, they may prefer to ship gifts to the couple's home for the couple to open after the (presumed) honeymoon. Wedding guests are also aware of the hassle some couples face of guarding gifts and transporting them after the reception.
I'm sure few wedding guests picture the couple keeping score, as you and your husband seem to be doing.
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