Second marriage leads back to first husband
When I told her that at this time in my life capital is crucial and the difference between what I could get from her vs. a stranger on the market is significant, she was pretty miffed that I " wouldn't help my own mother."
While she has not helped me financially as an adult, she feels that when she dies (in 30-plus years), I'll get it all back. Yikes.
Amy, what are your thoughts?
-- Callous Daughter
Dear Daughter: One advantage of selling to your mother is that you have a ready buyer. If she could come up to the assessed value, this might be worthwhile for everyone.
If she can't afford the assessed value, then she might not be able to afford to pay the taxes on the place.
Doing business with a family member can create problems, but if you remain businesslike (even if she isn't), this might work out.
If you make an effort, but can't see this as mutually advantageous, then you shouldn't do it.
Dear Amy: I was surprised to read your admission that you had a miscarriage several years ago. This seemed strangely personal and I wondered why you did it.
-- Curious
Dear Curious: Miscarriage isn't a crime or an embarrassment. It is something that happened, and I think it can help to talk about it.
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