Dad is horror-filled by son's horror films
But your son has the ability to see films or scenes from films online. Understand that he can likely gain access to almost anything he chooses. Also understand that his friends are influencing him, possibly even more than you and his mother are.
Explain your point of view, without coming down too hard on him. Ask him to describe why he is drawn to horror films and, yes, accept that it is definitely considered "cool" at his age to push this boundary.
At some point very soon, your son may start experimenting with watching porn. If you are calm and maintain an open attitude now when discussing these things with him, he should develop his own cultural meter when making choices on his own.
I hope you will watch movies with him, alternating who gets to choose the film. If I were you, I'd start with "Jaws" -- still scary after all these years.
Dear Amy: I am a 60-year-old man, divorced and in a long-distance relationship with a 63-year-old woman.
My concern is her ex-boyfriend. They have been broken up for two years but still stay in touch. He changes her furnace filters, drives her to the airport, watches her house when she takes a trip and is her tech guru when she gets frustrated with her computer or cable.
She has stated she is done with that relationship and has no romantic interest.
I believe her. She is a quality gal, and I trust he, but this boyfriend situation makes me uncomfortable and sad and it keeps me guessing.
I want to be her only man, but feel the pain of the distance between us.
Should I just get over myself and realize people keep previous friendships beyond their break-up, or is this a deal breaker?
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