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I do not want to insult him or cause him any embarrassment, but I need to get across to him that he has to lose at least 30 to 40 pounds. Even his daughter gives him grief about his weight.

Please tell me how to talk to him without hurting his feelings.

-- Diabetes

Dear Diabetes: Don't shame him because of his weight, but do get him to a doctor. He needs to fully understand the relationship between his weight and diabetes. And yes, diabetes can cause impotence.

A fitness tracker might provide some motivation for him to get more exercise, which will be good for his circulation. Start walking together each day.

With help from a nutritionist and encouragement from you, he can start to eat better, move more and improve his health dramatically.

Dear Amy: I'm afraid you got had by the person ("Pokemon Went") who wrote the letter about being left out while her partner played Pokemon Go.

In the letter, she uses lots of Pokemon Go terminology, which made me realize it was a goof.

-- Alert Reader

Dear Alert: Many readers picked up on this. Thank you! I thought the letter was cleverly describing a common phenomenon. I agree it was possibly a goof, but I don't regret running it.

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