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Dear Annie: A lifelong friend of mine moved to Utah a little over a year ago with a man twice her age. They met in a similar career field and travel together. She has been helping take care of his 10-year-old son.

We were best friends all of our childhood, and even as we got older, we remained close to varying degrees. Before she left, she promised we'd remain in touch and still try to see each other when possible. We even got together for lunch when she was back in town a few months after the initial move. We had a really nice time. At least, I thought we did.

Since September, I haven't heard back from her. I have texted and feel nervous to call for some reason. My wife and parents say maybe the relationship she's in is isolating her and she's unable to reach out. I thought being with a man that much older was weird, but my friend has always been a capable, independent woman, so I'm just not sure.

Any idea why she's ghosting me?

Thank You. -- Best Friend Forever in Colorado

Dear Best Friend Forever: The best way to find out why she has not texted you back is to pick up the phone and call her. She is your best friend! This is especially true if you feel that something is wrong with her relationship. She would need a friend.

She could also be busy taking care of his 10-year-old son. Regardless of the reason, communication is the answer to your question. The best communication is done face to face, but if you don't want to make a trip, start with a phone call and not just a text. If she is a true friend worth keeping, she will appreciate you telling her how you feel. If not, then you are better off without her.

Dear Annie: I lost my husband of 36 years due to rare bone marrow cancer. From the day of the diagnosis to the day of his passing, it was exactly two months. My family and I were shocked. GriefShare helped me so much.

Please inform others to check for their local support groups via Google or GriefShare.org/(name of your town or city). -- Grateful Nan

Dear Grateful Nan: I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing the link. I hope it helps others find the support they need.

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"How Can I Forgive My Cheating Partner?" is out now! Annie Lane's second anthology -- featuring favorite columns on marriage, infidelity, communication and reconciliation -- is available as a paperback and e-book. Visit http://www.creatorspublishing.com for more information. Send your questions for Annie Lane to dearannie@creators.com.