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Feuding Besties Cause Strain For Friend
DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm in a really tough spot with my two best friends. Recently, they had a huge falling-out over something pretty serious, and it's escalated to the point where they're not speaking to each other. They've each been confiding in me about their side of the story, and while I've been trying my best to listen and be supportive, it ...Read more
32-Year-Old Struggles With Driving Anxiety, Family Pressure
DEAR HARRIETTE: I'm 32 years old, and I still don't have my driver's license. This has always been a sensitive issue for me, and while I know it's unusual at my age, I just don't feel comfortable driving. My family has been patient over the years, helping me get around whenever I need it, but lately, they've been vocal about their frustrations. ...Read more
Daughter's New Job Sparks Independence
DEAR HARRIETTE: My 20-year-old daughter recently got her cosmetology license and has started working at a salon. She's excited about her new job and the independence it brings, but now she's telling me she wants to move out and get her own apartment. She says she's ready for the next step and wants her own space to feel more "grown-up." The ...Read more
Parent Looks For Strategies To Limit Screen Time
DEAR HARRIETTE: I know that gadgets are relevant today, but they can be harmful to our health, especially for our kids. I am trying to figure out how to balance this by giving my 4-year-old daughter just one hour of screen time each day. However, she sometimes exceeds this limit because I get busy and don't monitor her usage as closely as I ...Read more
Mom Dreads Impending Empty Nest Feelings
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, and my son is about to leave for his mission to Argentina for the next two years. While I am proud of him and his decision to serve, the thought of him being so far away for so long is really hard for me. We've always been close, and I've watched him grow into such...Read more
Close Friend Can't Keep A Secret
DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend keeps telling others about my private business, and it's starting to feel like a real betrayal. I recently started seeing someone new, and because my friend and I are very close, I shared the news with her. I was excited to tell her, and I trusted her to keep it between us. But almost immediately, I started hearing from...Read more
Readers Support Woman's Right To Stop Having Kids
DEAR READERS: I got resounding comments from many of you calling me out for my response to the woman whose husband was pushing her to try to have a son after she had already given birth to five daughters. I accept your input and want to share some of it now.
DEAR HARRIETTE: The surest way to add a boy to your family is to adopt a boy! There are...Read more
Parent Questions Use Of Corporal Punishment
DEAR HARRIETTE: Disciplining children is a critical aspect of parenting, but it can be challenging to determine the most effective methods. Recently, I've noticed that my 7-year-old son has been misbehaving, ignoring rules and testing boundaries. In the heat of the moment, I sometimes find myself resorting to physical consequences, such as a ...Read more
Teen Sister Needs Stress Relief
DEAR HARRIETTE: I have a 16-year-old sister who is currently facing the challenges of being a high school student. With the pressure to excel academically and socially, she often feels overwhelmed and stressed, striving to meet the high expectations set by herself and others. I've noticed that this stress sometimes manifests as anxiety and mood ...Read more
Romance Eludes Busy Grad Student
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am a 30-year-old Ph.D. student studying psychology, and I feel like my many years of education have gotten in the way of my romantic relationships. I've spent so much time focused on my studies and career that dating has often taken a back seat. The rare times I do meet someone, I struggle to balance the demands of my program ...Read more
Family Wants To Be Sensitive While Planning Celebration
DEAR HARRIETTE: My mother is turning 90 this year, and we are absolutely thrilled. As we have been planning her birthday celebration, it has occurred to me that I want to be sensitive to my friends who have lost their parents in recent years. We all grew up together, so I want to invite them to attend her party, but I don't want to remind them ...Read more
Woman Conflicted About Dating Friends' Ex
DEAR HARRIETTE: There's this guy I've been interested in for a while now. We have great chemistry, and every time we hang out, I find myself liking him more. The problem is, he's already gone after three of my friends. Each time, he's flirted with one of them or dated them briefly, and even though none of those relationships turned serious, it's...Read more
Adult Child Struggles To Trust Mom With Private Matters
DEAR HARRIETTE: I love my mom, but I just can't trust her with any sensitive information. Every time I share something personal or private, she turns around and tells my family, her friends and even acquaintances, and it's incredibly frustrating. For example, I'll confide in her about something going on in my life, and the next time I see a ...Read more
Reader Feels Stuck While Friends Succeed Abroad
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am still friends with my high school besties, "Erica" and "Celine." Erica became a registered nurse and moved abroad for work, while Celine is working in Dubai and enjoying a good life, even though she hasn't finished college. I have a master's degree in business administration, but I'm currently unemployed and waiting for ...Read more
Mom Criticized For Daughter's Pickiness
DEAR HARRIETTE: My 9-year-old daughter recently went over to her friend's house for a playdate. She was so excited to spend time with her friend, and everything seemed fine when I dropped her off. However, when I went to pick her up, her friend's mom pulled me aside and made a comment that really caught me off guard. She criticized my parenting ...Read more
New Mom Torn Between Baby And Career
DEAR READERS: I had a baby three months ago, and now it's time for me to go back to work. The thought of being away from my child is filling me with dread. I've used up all of my maternity leave and vacation time, so staying home longer isn't an option through work. I love my career, but the idea of leaving my baby in someone else's care feels ...Read more
Communication Issues Cause Relationship Troubles
DEAR HARRIETTE: I was in a clandestine relationship with a guy for most of this year. We hit if off after meeting on the street. We had a lot of fun together, but I always felt like I was putting forth more effort than him. One day I confronted him about not being more responsive, and he quipped back that if I wanted to be with him, I had to ...Read more
Man Gets Irrationally Angry Over Kid's Behavior
DEAR HARRIETTE: My friend "Fred's" daughter's birthday was approaching, and her friends wanted to surprise her. All of her friends met and shared their ideas for what to do. When her birthday arrived, they surprised her with balloons and food. To everyone's surprise, one of the guests blew out the candle for the birthday girl, which made her ...Read more
Pta President Pushes Back On Principal's Suggestion
DEAR HARRIETTE: I am the president of the parent-teacher association at my daughter's school, and at a recent meeting, the principal suggested that it is mandatory for us to buy food from the school canteen so that all the kids will have the same food and not feel jealous or envious of others who have more expensive options. What do you think I ...Read more
Woman Wants To Rekindle Friendship After Years Apart
DEAR HARRIETTE: Three years ago, I had a falling-out with a woman who, at the time, had been my best friend for eight years. Our friendship was one of those rare, deep connections that felt more like family than just friends. We went to the same college, were in each other's weddings and spent so much time together that we'd see each other at ...Read more