Landlady Wants To Send Model Tenants A Baby Gift
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I own several rental properties. Good tenants can be hard to find, but I have a fantastic younger couple renting one of my properties. They keep the place spotless, are never late on rent, and are just the nicest and most respectful people.
The lady of the house called me to say she was expecting their first child and asked for permission to paint the bedroom that will be the nursery. Of course I congratulated her, and gave her permission to paint the room any cheerful color she likes!
I feel like I should also send a small shower gift because I appreciate how much they care for and respect my property. Nothing extravagant, just a nice card with a gift card enclosed, and perhaps a pack of diapers with a bow on it.
My husband seems to think this is unprofessional and may create awkwardness. I receive gifts from business associates occasionally and feel it's perfectly acceptable. I will let you make the judgment call.
GENTLE READER: Sending a small present for the baby seems perfectly suitable to Miss Manners. If the other tenants object, they can have their own children. Or be better tenants.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: I'm going to a '70s-themed work party of about 100 people. My fur jacket from 1975 is perfect for my outfit. Is it appropriate for me to wear it to the party?
GENTLE READER: As opposed to what? Your bomber from the '80s?
The jacket you describe seems singularly perfect for the occasion. But if your real concern is about offending modern sensibilities with real fur, Miss Manners suggests you assure people that it is vintage. This buzzword -- and the idea that you are reusing the garment, rather than cruelly discarding it -- might cancel out any objections.
DEAR MISS MANNERS: My massage therapist called me on the phone to cancel my appointment because she was sick. I was in the bathroom at the time, so I didn't get to talk to her, I just heard the message.
I was disappointed, but I just proceeded with my plans for the day. Two days later, I received an email from her canceling my NEXT appointment and refunding the balance on my prepaid account.
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