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Dear Annie: My younger sister "Kayla" recently moved in with me while she finishes school. I offered because she was struggling financially and I have the space. At first, it felt good to help her out, but now I'm regretting the offer. She leaves dishes in the sink, stays up late watching TV loudly and has her friends over without asking. I've...Read more

Dear Annie: I have been close friends with "Marianna" since high school, and we still see each other regularly. We always split the bill when we go out to eat. I don't mind. But often I see at work (I work at a restaurant) that people will fight over the bill and offer to cover for whoever they're dining with. Marianna never does this. Even on...Read more

Dear Annie: I've been married for 16 years, and lately, I'm not sure I want to stay in this marriage.

I've always been the steady one -- the saver, the planner, the person who makes sure the bills get paid and there's something set aside for the future. My wife, on the other hand, has always been more impulsive when it comes to money. Over ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm in my early 30s and have been dating someone for nearly two years. On paper, he is everything my parents could have hoped for. He has a stable career; he is kind, respectful, family-oriented and well-liked by everyone. My friends and family think I have hit the jackpot.

The problem is, I am not sure I feel the kind of deep ...Read more

Dear Annie: My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for 10. We've always had what I believed was a stable, loving relationship. In all that time, we've only had a handful of arguments -- certainly nothing major or frequent.

But recently, during a heated disagreement, he said something that completely shattered me. In the ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm a 57-year-old woman, and I've been in an off-and-on relationship for nearly 11 years with a man who is 30. Yes, there's a big age gap, but in the beginning, it felt like we truly connected. We got married, and for a while, I thought we had something special.

But over the years, he's developed a pattern: he leaves -- sometimes ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm a retired, divorced man who had a fulfilling career, but I now struggle to find female companionship. I was mostly focused on my career and got married in my mid-40s, partly out of loneliness, and together we have a daughter in her 20s. Looking back, I don't think I was ever truly in love with my ex-wife. Still, I've never ...Read more

Dear Annie: The town I live in is trying to cut expenses by having amateurs handle the mowing and weed-whacking at our local cemetery. Last year, the professional landscapers left gouge marks on the lower stone of my son's grave. We were charged for perpetual care when he was buried, so I was upset by this.

Now, I'm even more concerned. The ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm in a strange situation with my co-worker, "Jordan." We've worked together for three years and have always had a friendly, joking rapport. Lately, though, his comments have crossed a line -- not inappropriate in a HR sense, but overly personal. He teases me about being single, makes remarks about how "picky" I must be and once ...Read more

Dear Annie: I formed a close bond with my former daughter-in-law when she married my son. Even after their divorce -- due to his addiction and abuse -- she and the kids lived with us for a while, and we remained close. Over the years, I supported her through abusive relationships, helped care for the children and was always there when she ...Read more

Dear Annie: Over 10 years ago, I worked with a nonprofit organization on a contract project and became friendly with a few people on their team. I genuinely admired their mission, and when I moved on, I started making a modest monthly donation to support their work. It felt good to stay connected to something meaningful, even in a small way.

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Dear Annie: I read with interest your response to the mother whose spouse undermines her authority in front of their 6-year-old daughter. As a mother, foster parent and now a grandmother, I've seen firsthand how damaging it can be when parents don't present a united front.

Every time one parent undercuts the other, they chip away at that ...Read more

Dear Annie: I often read letters in your column from people -- usually parents, often mothers -- who say they've been cut off by their adult children, sometimes over something that seems minor, like a forwarded Facebook post. As a 70-year-old who's seen this dynamic play out many times, I can't help but wonder: Are we always getting the full ...Read more

Dear Annie: In 1962, I was 14.5 years old and in my first year of junior high. Feeling desperate to be cool, I believed a girl from school when she told me that her brother, who was home on leave from the military, wanted to meet me. I told my mom and dad that I had a babysitting job, and I walked to a neighborhood drugstore where this guy ...Read more

Dear Annie: My wife and I have a milestone anniversary coming up. We plan on renting a large home in the south of France for a month and inviting family and close friends to celebrate with us. Some family members and friends know of our intentions and are excited to join us.

The cost to rent this villa for a month is $25-30,000, not including...Read more

Dear Annie: In a nutshell: I have been off social media for about five years, and this year I have made it a resolution to reduce my screen time. My screen time average is down to about an hour a day. If I had a way to measure it, I'd say my mental health has improved greatly.

A year or two before Covid, I decided I was tired of getting into ...Read more

Dear Annie: My partner's mother constantly demands attention, and everything revolves around her. Whenever we're busy or focused on other things, she lashes out -- often hurting those around her, including her grandchildren. She plays favorites, manipulates situations to her advantage and pulls the extended family into her drama. If anyone ...Read more

Dear Annie: I'm at a crossroads in my marriage, and I don't know what to do. My husband and I barely talk anymore unless it's about the kids or logistics. There's no connection, no affection -- just a quiet tension that lingers in the background of everything. We've tried counseling, and while it helped us communicate better for a while, ...Read more

Dear Annie: There's a little boy in my son's school -- he's 6 years old -- who has a history of being very physical with other kids, including my son. They were in the same class previously, and my son would come home upset, sometimes with bruises, telling me this boy had hit or shoved him during the day. Thankfully, they're not in the same ...Read more

Dear Readers: Wishing you and your families a very happy Easter and Passover. Spring is a time to get outdoors and play. It is a time for new beginnings and fresh starts. It is a time when the flowers begin to bloom and kittens are born. Below are some of my favorite poems about spring and joy and the innocence and beauty of childhood.

"Spring"...Read more