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Elite dating services are thriving as love defies economic woes

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Frustrated with dating apps, singles are are shelling out for high-end matchmaking.

“We had our biggest month of sales in the history of the company last month, and we’ve been around for 15 years,” Adam Cohen-Aslatei, CEO of the matchmaking service Three Day Rule says. “Our business is not shrinking.”

And he’s not alone. Demand ...Read more

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Ask Dating Coach Erika: Questions about ghosting, goals

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Today, let’s look at two different questions from two different clients. As always, if one person asks, I can only assume it is applicable to a larger audience. And, interestingly enough, you’ll see that these questions are applicable to any gender and any age.

Question:

I am convinced that online dating is haunted, based upon my ...Read more

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Ask Anna: Hookup culture burnout and unavailable crush cycles: Pride edition

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Dear Anna,

I'm a 38-year-old gay man living in a midsize city, and I'm completely exhausted by the dating scene here. It feels like every guy I meet on the apps is only interested in hooking up, and when I suggest actually going on a date or getting to know each other first, they either ghost me or tell me I'm "too serious." I've tried being ...Read more

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Date like a 'Love Islander': Tips from a casting event

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ATLANTA -- “Love Island USA’s” Pop-Up Villa stopped by Atlanta’s Park Tavern recently, and whether you’re entering your dating era or you’re just a fan of the popular show, the free event offered more than a chance to audition.

We spoke with casting director Jodi Thomas to get her thoughts on dating trends, red flags and what really...Read more

Ask Anna: How to support your nonbinary partner while processing your own feelings

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Dear Anna,

I've been with my partner for two-and-a-half years, and six months ago they came out to me as nonbinary. I want to be clear that I love them deeply and I'm so proud of them for sharing this with me — I know it took courage. They've asked me to use they/them pronouns, which I'm working on (though I still slip up sometimes), and they...Read more

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Ask Dating Coach Erika: Should I cancel my trip for my new boyfriend?

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A woman recently messaged me with a dilemma. She had planned a trip to the Grand Canyon months ago with a platonic male friend. Since then, she started dating someone new, and after one month of exclusivity with her new boyfriend, she told him about the trip. The boyfriend’s reaction? Not good.

Her question to me: “Do I cancel the trip out ...Read more

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Ask Anna: Feeling behind in gay dating? How to date confidently as a newly out adult

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Dear Anna,

I'm 34 and just came out to myself (and a few close friends) as gay after years of thinking I was just "bad at dating men" or "too picky." Looking back, all the signs were there, but I genuinely thought my lack of attraction to boyfriends was normal and that romantic love was just something that happened in movies. I've spent the ...Read more

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Ask Dating Coach Erika: 'Why did he tell me that on our first date??'

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I got a question recently from a woman asking me whether she should be concerned that the man she just went out with (he’s 57; she’s 51) had previously been in a relationship with a 23-year-old. My response, based on no additional information about either of them, was: It’s unclear.

To be honest, it was less the age gap that raised a red ...Read more

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Ask Dating Coach Erika: 'Why have you never been married?'

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The other day, a 60-something female, widowed client of mine received a message on Match.com from an accomplished, seemingly nice man. In her first response back to him, she asked – point blank – “Why have you never been married?” He replied very politely, saying that it was a combination of things, some work-related and some more ...Read more

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Ask Anna: How to make LGBTQ+ friends as an adult

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Happy Pride Month, advice-seekers! We’re getting gay this June by answering LGBTQ+ questions. As always, send your dating/sex/relationship que(e)ries to redeyedating@gmail.com.

Dear Anna,

My girlfriend and I (both 28, together for three years) have a solid group of friends from college and work, but we're the only queer couple in the bunch. ...Read more

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Ask Dating Coach Erika: What do I do when his place is a pigsty?

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As always, dating can sometimes feel like a conglomeration of awkward situations, ones we have no idea how to deal with.

I stand by my advice that I give often: I don’t want you to be scared of talking to the very person you supposedly like so much. If they’re a true partner, it will feel like a safe landing place for your concerns and ...Read more

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Ask Anna: My partner won't sleep next to me anymore -- what should I do?

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Dear Anna,

My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and recently moved in together. Everything was going great until we started sharing a bed regularly. He claims that my breathing keeps him awake at night — not snoring, just my normal breathing sounds. At first I thought he was joking, but he's completely serious.

He's started ...Read more

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I'm the only one asking questions!

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In online dating, I often see two competing factors:

1. People genuinely want to meet someone great (or at least they think they do).

2. People are lazy and don’t take the time to do online dating well … or at all.

This conversation happened to a client of mine (the woman in this exchange) on Bumble:

Her: Do you still drink iced coffee ...Read more

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Ask Anna: My boyfriend just met my ex-hookup -- now he won't talk to me

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Dear Anna,

I was 23 when I finally got my own place. There was this attractive guy who lived down the hall from me and we had some flirty exchanges that eventually led to a hookup. Just a one-time thing, and afterward we'd only exchange quick hellos if we ran into each other. A few months later, I met my current boyfriend, who I've been with ...Read more

Sarcasm and online dating: A tough pair

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We’ve all been there: Someone we don’t know extremely well—maybe a work colleague or friend of a friend—sends a biting text that immediately causes you to raise your eyebrows. You may ask friends, “Hey...what do you think this means?” Internally, you’re debating whether you should ever talk to this person again ... or if it was ...Read more

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Ask Anna: Love after baby -- Mother's Day advice for exhausted new parents

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Dear Anna,

My husband and I welcomed our beautiful daughter six months ago, and while we're absolutely in love with her, I feel like my husband and I are just ships passing in the night. Between diaper changes, feedings and sleep deprivation, our relationship has taken a backseat. Date nights seem like a distant memory, and when we do have a ...Read more

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Straight talk on the small (but often stressful) stuff

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Whether you're navigating first-date logistics or attempting to decide dating app behavior, dating today comes with a thousand tiny decisions that can leave you second-guessing.

I get these kinds of questions all the time, so here’s a roundup of real scenarios — with my unfiltered takes — on how to handle them. Spoiler: None of these ...Read more

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Ask Anna: How to tell your spouse you want a divorce without getting pulled back in

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Dear Anna,

After 12 years of marriage (17 together), I (38F) am ready to end things with my husband (40M). We've had our ups and downs — early struggles when he was unemployed, ongoing imbalance in household responsibilities and communication issues. While I handle most domestic tasks despite earning more, he contributes minimally and seems ...Read more

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How NOT to get dates

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This article is for anyone trying to get a date with a woman. As a woman myself, and working with 65% female clients of all ages, I have the insider information on what women want when it comes to dating … and what they don’t.

I’m going to break it down in simple terms. Do any of these things, and your chances of getting a date dwindle. ...Read more

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Ask Anna: I think my wife cheated -- but she doesn't know I know. Should I say something?

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Dear Anna,

A few weeks ago, my wife’s friend’s husband (I know, classic game of telephone) told me that my wife had a brief fling with someone at work. He was scant on details so I don’t know if it was emotional or physical or how far it went. Apparently, she ended it quickly, felt awful and swore it off. She hasn’t said a word to me.

...Read more

 

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