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DEAR ABBY: I'm a gay man living in a predominantly straight community. About a year ago, a married couple moved in. One day, the husband asked me to come over and help him put a table together, which I did. He thanked me by opening a bottle of wine. Then he asked me what turns me on. I thought the question was unusual, but I didn't hold back -- ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have been seeing a hairstylist for a decade. During the last couple of years, I don't feel I've gotten the service I deserve. I go in for a trim about every two months (sometimes longer to save money). She is extremely busy and sometimes delegates "green" hairstylists to wash and blow-dry my hair.

I appreciate that she gives new ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My girlfriend, whom I have known for many years, remarried her ex-husband a few years ago. I didn't know her when she was married to him the first time.

My husband and I don't like him. The last time we met for lunch, her husband showed my husband a gun he was carrying in his pocket! Abby, he's an elderly man with a tremor in his ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: After being married overseas, my daughter recently held a wedding reception stateside. My husband and his sister were able to attend the wedding. I could not because of serious business obligations, so I was really looking forward to the local reception.

My sister-in-law, who lost her husband 18 months ago, sat next to me and cried ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have been dating this guy for five years. Two years ago, one of his friends came on to me through a text. I told him I'm not the kind of woman who cheats. He respected that and didn't text me again. I told my boyfriend the very next day, and he no longer trusts me! Ever since then, he questions what I'm doing and where I am and ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have two sisters. Our mother passed away last year after a bad fall. I was her primary caretaker and was with her every day. The other two sisters were not speaking to her at all, which hurt her deeply. She had dementia but still missed them and would talk about them often. It was all very sad.

When Mom died, my older sister wouldn...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have been married to my husband for more than 20 years. He's mostly very nice, although he has generalized anxiety disorder. In the past, he threatened to kill someone (not me!) as well as himself and had to be hospitalized.

Ninety-nine percent of the time he's friendly and thoughtful, except for one thing: He isn't capable of ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have been married for 52 years. While looking for a tax document, I found a manila envelope that had a note written on the outside. It said, "If something happens to me, please destroy this, because I don't want to hurt anyone." I opened the envelope and found nude pictures of my husband and another woman taken 30 years ago.

When I...Read more

DEAR ABBY: Over the last few years, my family has faced a lot of loss, especially my mother. In the span of three years, she has lost her parents, my father and my brother. We had a little joy with my son being born. He brought a lot of happiness when everybody was heartbroken.

Right after my brother's death, we found out we were unexpectedly ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My brother just got engaged to the "WOAT" (Worst of All Time). They have been dating for 2 1/2 years, and nobody in the family has anything good to say about her. In the past, he always had stable relationships with girls we really enjoyed. But now he's getting older, his friends are getting engaged and it seems like he's settling and...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I am blessed with two sons who live with me. They are in their mid-20s. The younger one is an amazing young man. He's strong, confident but not cocky, and happy. He's in college, works part-time and plays in a band, among other things.

My older son is the opposite. Since he was 16, he's had countless jobs and is (again) currently ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I have been in a relationship with someone for 11 months. We're both each other's first relationship after being single for a few years following traumatic breakups. During our entire relationship, he has not cut his hair, left his house or socialized with anyone besides me, except via text.

He doesn't visit me, but he always leaves ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: Eight years ago, my wife's nephew needed a car. His parents had poor credit at that time. I took him to a car dealer, where he found a car, and I didn't hesitate to cosign the loan. He paid the loan off on time.

I am now in financial difficulty, and one possibility for me would be to refinance my car loan. When I suggested the nephew...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My 25-year-old niece is getting married in four months. Five years ago, she lost her father in a tragic accident while her parents were on vacation. Since that time, she has come out as gay and grown closer to me than to her mom (my sister).

I was always close to my sister and both of her daughters while they were growing up and ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I've been married to my husband for 30 years. For the past five years, I've noticed that he is acting a little different. He's lost a lot of weight. I found out he's been smoking drugs. He had this problem years ago, and I thought we had it beat. But now I'm getting the impression that maybe you can't ever beat it.

My daughter gave ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My wife and I have not had sex for the last four years. I'm not a perfect husband. I have made my share of mistakes -- not always telling the truth, texting other women -- and she has her share of imperfections as well. She has hit me on more than one occasion. She has also pulled a gun on me and stole $1,400. And yet, I find myself ...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My husband and I have very different approaches to social media; He's all in, and I'm all out. I don't "do" the internet. I don't have Facebook, Instagram, X, Snapchat and whatever else people are using these days. I quit using social media five years ago when I realized how much it was contributing to my stress. Leaving it behind has...Read more

DEAR ABBY: I am a healthy older woman living alone in a building for seniors. I've known some of my neighbors most of my life. I consider us like a family.

My problem is, my 49-year-old daughter, "Jasmine," has been a pill addict for the last 20 years. I've tried repeatedly to help her. I've begged to get her to go to counseling, but she won't....Read more

DEAR ABBY: My husband is an adrenaline junkie who loves high speeds and fast cars. I am the opposite. I hate riding in fast cars, on roller coasters or anything adrenaline-related. I have explained to him many times that I don't enjoy going fast in his super-fast car, yet he keeps asking me to go with him. I'll do it sometimes, but I hate it. If...Read more

DEAR ABBY: My mom and stepdad ("Hugh") are divorcing after 20 years of marriage. Mom has been involved with scammers for the last two years, giving away money and her Social Security number. I no longer talk to her because of this. She actually expected me to drive her places to meet these men and lend them her money!

My stepdad and I started ...Read more