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"You're kidding!" The river is beyond freezing, as if wheelbarrows full of ice cubes had been dumped into the water.

Even worse, slick rocks line the riverbed where my daughter Mel declares we have to cross -- barefoot -- to avoid soaking our boots and socks. She neglects to mention it, but this is the first of a dozen river crossings on this 16-mile hike from Crested Butte, Colorado, to Aspen -- some with the water flowing so fast we have to hold hands and sidestep across to keep from falling.

But this first river crossing my two daughters and husband dubbed a Triple M -- Memorable Mom Moment -- because I screamed all the way across. They continued to tease me about it all weekend.

Truth be told, I didn't really care. I was feeling pretty proud of myself -- and my husband -- for completing the difficult hike over the famous Maroon Pass, as well as for trusting my daughters, both experienced hikers and backpackers, to lead the way.

I always suggest parents and grandparents let the kids lead some of the time on vacation, even when they are in grade school. First, they'll take you in unexpected directions (who even knew that museum exhibit was there?). They'll share their passions (who knew going to a concert with them could be so much fun?). The kids, of course, are happier because they aren't being dragged along and are more willing to do something you choose.

Now that my kids are grown and travel more on their own than with me, I know that if they are going to do something with us, it needs to be something they like to do -- skiing, hiking, mountain-biking (my husband actually gave that a try this trip), as well as enjoying craft cocktails and innovative cuisine (like at Aspen Kitchen, overlooking Aspen Mountain, which serves up new twists on locally sourced ingredients).

They are pretty typical millennial travelers, according to the new research presented at the TMS Family Travel SummitI co-chair: They are interested in immersive, active, new experiences, including trying new foods and drink. And since they are continuing to travel with their parents, that means they are encouraging us to travel differently.

That's not to say everyone will tackle a 16-mile hike in the Rockies with their kids, scrambling over and under giant logs, hiking through unstable fields of rock called scree. But you might be encouraged to take a food tour or cooking class in a foreign city, find your way to an off-the-tourist-track restaurant in an ethnic neighborhood, or opt to plan a family vacation on an expedition cruise in Alaska or Panama rather than on a megaship.

It's also important, wherever you go, to take the bad with the good. No matter how old your kids are there are going to be some bumps along the way, but as this hike proved, they make for the best stories afterward.

We'd started off at 6:30 a.m. from the Copper Lake Trailhead, about a 20-minute drive northwest of Crested Butte, where Mel lives and works for the High Country Conservation Advocates. For two days, we'd been debating the route -- the shorter more popular West Maroon trail, which we'd done before, or the longer, less steep and less crowded East Maroon trail, which Mel suggested.

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