Parents fret over daughter's relationship
Dear Amy: My 20-year-old daughter is in love with her former soccer coach, who is 53.
When she was 16, he started coaching her team in high school. After graduating she assisted him as a coach. Apparently the affair started in earnest last year.
He is not employed and is married with three children; his oldest is the same age as my daughter. He and his wife are now divorcing.
She saw a therapist and was dismissed due to her disinterest in the process.
My husband and I have spoken to four different therapists; all saying she should be released into the world, because she wants to control her own life. I agree with this. My husband wants her to stay home.
We are divided about what to do.
We have agreed that she will only get financial help for school. If she communicates with him with the phone we pay for and sees him with the car we pay for, then she has to pay for them.
Her goal is to save enough to move out. She has a part-time job and goes to college full time. They can't make it on her part-time salary.
Please give us your thoughts.
-- Upset Parents
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