Protective brother wakes up to terrible surprise
Dear Amy: My younger sister and I are young adults. We are extremely close, and have many mutual friends. She is educated, attractive, successful, single and often regarded as the type to take no nonsense from guys. I am sometimes regarded as the slightly overprotective older brother.
This past weekend we took a trip together, went out to bars and split a hotel room.
I allowed a mutual friend to stay with us, because he had been drinking. This friend is known for his exploits with women.
I fell asleep rather quickly, but awoke after a few minutes to them engaging in extremely animated intercourse.
I was paralyzed, but left the room as soon as I could. I spent the rest of the night/morning on the street before texting my sister and telling her to have him leave immediately.
I feel regretful, betrayed and utterly disrespected by both of them. I've had words with my sister and she has apologized, but none of it seems to help me process what I witnessed.
I feel like I don't even know who she is anymore.
I've not yet said anything to my friend. They are both integral parts of my life (especially my sister) and I can't imagine life without either of them.
I know alcohol played a part, but I was with them all evening and know they were both in control of their faculties, so I don't accept that as an excuse. Am I overreacting? What can I do to get past this?
-- Traumatized
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